Well this has been a very hard couple weeks for me and my wife. Not that we are fighting, as a matter of fact we have never been closer. I received some very bad health news May 29th. I am not going to go into details here, I am just going to say that I am questioning my own mortality. It's bad, but I, my wife, and doctors are optimistic. I'm young and strong and have no other conditions that would affect my treatment that is going for me.
The basement is going to change. I am not a drinker anymore. I have not had or wanted a beer in over a week and a half. I am still going to use it to collect and display my vinyl, video games and baseball cards though.
I have some rough times ahead, I am going to fight and get through this. I am not sure how many people read this, but, wish me luck.
Thursday, May 31
Friday, May 11
Hints
Ok, we had the fight. It all came out. I informed my lady a few days later that I have changed my mind. At first I offered to let the scum stay here for 1 month. That's it. No longer. I figured no person in their right mind would pick up, move across country with a family with nothing to fall back on in case things turn out bad ( can't get a job, car breaks, kid gets sick). A 1 month stay is not very long. Well, I was wrong. It appears that the scum did not want to stay up there at all and were seriously considering making the move fully knowing they were only welcome to stay for 1 month, regardless of finding a job or not.
I told my lady they are not staying here at all. I changed my mind, knowing that if he were not to find a job, the 1 month stay would end up being longer. Screw that. I am not hampering my life at all concerning these people.
It has been a few days since I advised my lady of that. She has been dropping hints......."oh I wish they were here, they could help me with this, that, etc......" crap like that. Then she says " I know you don't want them here" I then told her for the millionth time, I don't care where they move, it is nothing personal. I'm not supporting them. Period.
I know this is going to come up again. I really don't want to get angry with my wife about this, I can understand her way of thinking. She loves her grand children, and wants to see them. It is not her fault that both her sons or worthless. The one up north is the youngest, he is the one constantly asking his mom for assistance. This dude needs to grow the fuck up. Looks like now he is going to have too. Next time my lady brings the subject up, I am going to have to tell her that regardless of how many times this is mentioned, I am not changing my mind. Period.
On a high note. I built the stand for my record albums. I decided to store them like record stores do, in crates so you are able to flip through them. Storing them like that does take up more space than a couple wall shelves, but, finding a specific record will be easier like that. I have made this stand/table large enough to store 8 crates that hold about 100 records a piece. Now, moving my records around to make space I noticed I do have alot of crap records, religious, classical, etc....and artists I really have no interest in, Dean Martin ( God, he made alot of fucking records) Tennessee Ernie Ford, Slim Whitman, crap like that. When I would buy records, I would buy in bulk. If I noticed a few in there I wanted, I would offer for the whole lot. Well, my crates will hold about 800 records, I know I have no where near that many that I want to keep, so I will have the room to expand. The table is not complete yet, I still need to get a top and place shelves on the underside for my baseball cards, but when it's done, It will be sweet.
I told my lady they are not staying here at all. I changed my mind, knowing that if he were not to find a job, the 1 month stay would end up being longer. Screw that. I am not hampering my life at all concerning these people.
It has been a few days since I advised my lady of that. She has been dropping hints......."oh I wish they were here, they could help me with this, that, etc......" crap like that. Then she says " I know you don't want them here" I then told her for the millionth time, I don't care where they move, it is nothing personal. I'm not supporting them. Period.
I know this is going to come up again. I really don't want to get angry with my wife about this, I can understand her way of thinking. She loves her grand children, and wants to see them. It is not her fault that both her sons or worthless. The one up north is the youngest, he is the one constantly asking his mom for assistance. This dude needs to grow the fuck up. Looks like now he is going to have too. Next time my lady brings the subject up, I am going to have to tell her that regardless of how many times this is mentioned, I am not changing my mind. Period.
On a high note. I built the stand for my record albums. I decided to store them like record stores do, in crates so you are able to flip through them. Storing them like that does take up more space than a couple wall shelves, but, finding a specific record will be easier like that. I have made this stand/table large enough to store 8 crates that hold about 100 records a piece. Now, moving my records around to make space I noticed I do have alot of crap records, religious, classical, etc....and artists I really have no interest in, Dean Martin ( God, he made alot of fucking records) Tennessee Ernie Ford, Slim Whitman, crap like that. When I would buy records, I would buy in bulk. If I noticed a few in there I wanted, I would offer for the whole lot. Well, my crates will hold about 800 records, I know I have no where near that many that I want to keep, so I will have the room to expand. The table is not complete yet, I still need to get a top and place shelves on the underside for my baseball cards, but when it's done, It will be sweet.
Friday, May 4
The Aftermath
Well, regarding my prior post. My wife's scum fuck son is not moving here. That came to a head one afternoon earlier this week.
My wife woke me up with a question. Why can't her son move his family here? I then explained to her at least for the tenth time, I could care less where he moves, he can move here if he wants. I will not support him, or his family. I told her that I have my own to take care of, her and the dog. He is an adult, he makes his own choices.
She flew off the handle. She yelled at me that them crashing here is not support. I had to bring her back to reality. I asked her then, what is it? Are they going to make the house payments, pay the electric, pay the cable, put gas in the fucking car? She said, no, they don't have any money, I said exactly. I will be supporting them. She went apeshit.
Well, to make a long story short, we had a very big fight, biggest one we have ever had. At one point, I thought the police would get involved, but they were not called. Things are ok now, kinda. I had to sit my wife down and explain to her that I loved her and cared for her, but I will not support an adult that has made bad choices and relies on others for assistance. I advised her that if she can not accept that, she could get her own place and move them in with her. We would break up. Period.
My wife is not stupid. She knows that I have given her the best life that she has ever had. She is not going to give that up for anything. Don't get me wrong. I love my wife. I did not, have not, or ever will threaten to kick her out or anything like that. I am not holding that over her head. I provide a great life for her, and myself, because I want too. It is time for her to finally accept the fact that she did her job with her kids, it's over. They are adults now, they can no longer rely on her for support. She has her own life and it does not center on them.
I have had to tell my wife this on several occasions. I'm getting real tired of dealing with this BS. In the middle of the fight, I called my boss thinking that I would be going to jail and to ask him for help if I were too, and that I would not be going to work that night. Needless to say, he was not very happy. I have not been back to work since this happened. I am probably going to be written up for my absence, which is understandable.
This shit is affecting my work now. I'm tired of it. I told my girl this and that I am on the fence so to speak as far as our lives together goes. I still think that breaking this off would be better. Things are only getting worse.
My wife woke me up with a question. Why can't her son move his family here? I then explained to her at least for the tenth time, I could care less where he moves, he can move here if he wants. I will not support him, or his family. I told her that I have my own to take care of, her and the dog. He is an adult, he makes his own choices.
She flew off the handle. She yelled at me that them crashing here is not support. I had to bring her back to reality. I asked her then, what is it? Are they going to make the house payments, pay the electric, pay the cable, put gas in the fucking car? She said, no, they don't have any money, I said exactly. I will be supporting them. She went apeshit.
Well, to make a long story short, we had a very big fight, biggest one we have ever had. At one point, I thought the police would get involved, but they were not called. Things are ok now, kinda. I had to sit my wife down and explain to her that I loved her and cared for her, but I will not support an adult that has made bad choices and relies on others for assistance. I advised her that if she can not accept that, she could get her own place and move them in with her. We would break up. Period.
My wife is not stupid. She knows that I have given her the best life that she has ever had. She is not going to give that up for anything. Don't get me wrong. I love my wife. I did not, have not, or ever will threaten to kick her out or anything like that. I am not holding that over her head. I provide a great life for her, and myself, because I want too. It is time for her to finally accept the fact that she did her job with her kids, it's over. They are adults now, they can no longer rely on her for support. She has her own life and it does not center on them.
I have had to tell my wife this on several occasions. I'm getting real tired of dealing with this BS. In the middle of the fight, I called my boss thinking that I would be going to jail and to ask him for help if I were too, and that I would not be going to work that night. Needless to say, he was not very happy. I have not been back to work since this happened. I am probably going to be written up for my absence, which is understandable.
This shit is affecting my work now. I'm tired of it. I told my girl this and that I am on the fence so to speak as far as our lives together goes. I still think that breaking this off would be better. Things are only getting worse.
Tuesday, April 24
I'm Relieved
I deleted what I had here. It was a drunk rant. Now. The scum fuck up north ain't moving here. YES!
When he mentioned it to my girl a couple weeks ago, I felt as if my lady was not telling me everything. I assumed that if they were to happen to move here that they would want to stay with us. I was right. At this time, I informed my lady that I did not want any surprises. None. I wanted to be completely informed as to what was going on. If not. No deal. Period.
It took a few days, but I came to find out that the son got laid off. No big surprise there. But, he was only going to get 66 bucks a week unemployment! What!!! My lady said that he never worked a full week. (No wonder he got laid off) Now, his girl, the pregnant one, her job was not going to give her paid maternity leave so she quit. Now, by quitting a job, you are not going to get unemployment. You can fight it, but, it will be real hard trying to fight it from another state. I told my lady this.
It turns out, they were going to be coming down here with no money coming in what so ever. None. They figured they could live off of my dime for awhile tell he gets a job, saves up and gets a place. My lady was going to apply for aid and add them as dependents, get food stamps and shit. I said.....FUCK THAT!!!!
No way in hell are they coming down here penniless. No way. At this time, I advised my lady that they could come stay here for 1 month, period. No longer. My lady asked, what if he don't find a job....I said tough. They are out. She informed me that they had already told their landlord up north that they were moving and they needed to be out of their house and would not have a place. I said "oh well" looks like they better find a place, I am not supporting them. Needless to say, she was pissed and advised me that I did not want them down here! She's right. I don't, but, I did not tell her that. I informed her that her son could move wherever the fuck he wants to, but, I am not supporting them. Period.
Well, they are not moving here. He has called my lady several times and I have no idea what the fuck they are doing up there. I don't care really. My lady knows now. I ain't gonna take no shit. If they do turn up here, I'm calling the police.
When he mentioned it to my girl a couple weeks ago, I felt as if my lady was not telling me everything. I assumed that if they were to happen to move here that they would want to stay with us. I was right. At this time, I informed my lady that I did not want any surprises. None. I wanted to be completely informed as to what was going on. If not. No deal. Period.
It took a few days, but I came to find out that the son got laid off. No big surprise there. But, he was only going to get 66 bucks a week unemployment! What!!! My lady said that he never worked a full week. (No wonder he got laid off) Now, his girl, the pregnant one, her job was not going to give her paid maternity leave so she quit. Now, by quitting a job, you are not going to get unemployment. You can fight it, but, it will be real hard trying to fight it from another state. I told my lady this.
It turns out, they were going to be coming down here with no money coming in what so ever. None. They figured they could live off of my dime for awhile tell he gets a job, saves up and gets a place. My lady was going to apply for aid and add them as dependents, get food stamps and shit. I said.....FUCK THAT!!!!
No way in hell are they coming down here penniless. No way. At this time, I advised my lady that they could come stay here for 1 month, period. No longer. My lady asked, what if he don't find a job....I said tough. They are out. She informed me that they had already told their landlord up north that they were moving and they needed to be out of their house and would not have a place. I said "oh well" looks like they better find a place, I am not supporting them. Needless to say, she was pissed and advised me that I did not want them down here! She's right. I don't, but, I did not tell her that. I informed her that her son could move wherever the fuck he wants to, but, I am not supporting them. Period.
Well, they are not moving here. He has called my lady several times and I have no idea what the fuck they are doing up there. I don't care really. My lady knows now. I ain't gonna take no shit. If they do turn up here, I'm calling the police.
Thursday, April 12
It's Cold
It's been real cold here the past 2-3 days. I mean cold enough to turn on the furnace. I have not though, the wife and I have been dealing with it. I have not opened the pool yet, due to it being kinda chilly out. Think I will wait till next month for that.
The wife mentioned the scum fuck up north again yesterday. Get this, the stupid fucker wants us to go up there so his wife don't have to drive back. He is going to tow his car with the U-Haul truck. I ain't going, screw that. Then get this, my wife stated that he wanted me to drive the U-Haul. Fuck that. I ain't driving his fucking truck. I told my wife that. I ain't driving shit. The stupid fucker wants to move here. Fine. He can do it, I ain't helping. I know if the fucker gets here, the wife is gonna want him and his fucking family to stay here for a little while. I don't know about that. I have not said anything yet about it, because I know if I say no, there is going to be a big fight. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. The fucker has 3 dogs and going to have 3 fucking kids. Fuck that, they ain't staying here, not even for a night.
I seriously don't like how things are starting to develop with this situation. Personally I think it may drive my wife and I apart. For good. I have been giving that some serious thought over the last few days. I have worked very hard to provide my wife and myself a good life and home. I am not going to let her scum fuck family destroy it or take advantage of it. I already put up with the one grand kid, his fucking parents are scum and really not fit to be parents in my opinion. I know there is a good chance if I were to call the state and they go in there and take a look, they would loose both kids. It's sad. I do not do that because, if that were to happen, the wife would want both kids. I hate kids. If I wanted kids, I would have had some by now. I don't think I'm being selfish. It's my paycheck. I'm going to take care of my own, not anybody else. Period.
If this continues I am going to have to sit down and have a talk with the wife. If we split, we split. I am not going to compromise my way of life and enjoyment for anybody. I have already ran the split scenario several times over in my mind. It ain't gonna be pretty, but, splits never are.
The wife mentioned the scum fuck up north again yesterday. Get this, the stupid fucker wants us to go up there so his wife don't have to drive back. He is going to tow his car with the U-Haul truck. I ain't going, screw that. Then get this, my wife stated that he wanted me to drive the U-Haul. Fuck that. I ain't driving his fucking truck. I told my wife that. I ain't driving shit. The stupid fucker wants to move here. Fine. He can do it, I ain't helping. I know if the fucker gets here, the wife is gonna want him and his fucking family to stay here for a little while. I don't know about that. I have not said anything yet about it, because I know if I say no, there is going to be a big fight. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. The fucker has 3 dogs and going to have 3 fucking kids. Fuck that, they ain't staying here, not even for a night.
I seriously don't like how things are starting to develop with this situation. Personally I think it may drive my wife and I apart. For good. I have been giving that some serious thought over the last few days. I have worked very hard to provide my wife and myself a good life and home. I am not going to let her scum fuck family destroy it or take advantage of it. I already put up with the one grand kid, his fucking parents are scum and really not fit to be parents in my opinion. I know there is a good chance if I were to call the state and they go in there and take a look, they would loose both kids. It's sad. I do not do that because, if that were to happen, the wife would want both kids. I hate kids. If I wanted kids, I would have had some by now. I don't think I'm being selfish. It's my paycheck. I'm going to take care of my own, not anybody else. Period.
If this continues I am going to have to sit down and have a talk with the wife. If we split, we split. I am not going to compromise my way of life and enjoyment for anybody. I have already ran the split scenario several times over in my mind. It ain't gonna be pretty, but, splits never are.
Wednesday, April 4
It's Been Awhile
It's been a long time since my last post. Figured I would provide a little update. Things have been going on rather regular around here. Nothing much happening. The wife had foot surgery a week ago, so I have been taking care of her.
She did mention to me yesterday that her other son up north wants to move here. Crap!!! WTF!!!!
Although I can not blame the guy for wanting to get the fuck out of scum town, why in the hell does he want to move here? Both of her fucking brood don't have a pot to piss in, I did tell my wife that if he does move his family here, they will not get any financial support from me. Fuck that. My wife says she is not going to hold her breath, on this happening. For once I agree with her. I don't think the guy is going to move. I hope and pray that it does not happen.
Jesus, why can't these kids live their own lives. I moved out and have been on my own since I was 19. Joined the Military and never looked back, granted I did move back to the folks town a couple times, but, always held my own. I was a single guy, nothing but the clothes on my back and no household to transport. This stupid fucker has 2 kids and 1 on the way plus a full household. Wants to move down here to be close to his mama. What a fucking pansy.
These people are typical scum. You know the type. They have 3 dogs, don't take care of them and their yard is covered with broken kids toys with a front porch full of garbage. That's what their house looked like last Christmas. Their house is always fucking dirty, toys, food, trash all over the place. Kitchen filled with dirty dishes, stained dirty furniture, carpets with dog piss stains and food stains. It's fucking disgusting. Honestly I do not know how this is going to pan out. I'm hoping the fucker don't want to deal with a cross country move and just says fuck it.
On a higher note, the lawn guy has been here 3 times so far. The yard looks great. I have not opened the pool this year yet, I will probably do that next week. I did have the lawn guy clean out and unplug my gutters. I did not want to risk walking around on my roof with my big ass. I was scared I might have fallen through, lol. So, we have lived here for 5 years and some change. Cleaned the gutters for the first time and it only came to 50 bucks! Sweet.
Did some rearranging in the basement. I think the layout I have now will be the one. Also, the lady has been watching Doomsday Preppers with me and has come to accept that way of life and wants to prepare. She has even stated that she wants me to teach her how to shoot and care for guns. Bonus!!!!! I do think hoarding away certain items in case certain things happen is a very prudent idea.
So. All an all, things are going pretty good. I just hope and pray to the Lord above the scum fuck from up North does not show up on my doorstep.
She did mention to me yesterday that her other son up north wants to move here. Crap!!! WTF!!!!
Although I can not blame the guy for wanting to get the fuck out of scum town, why in the hell does he want to move here? Both of her fucking brood don't have a pot to piss in, I did tell my wife that if he does move his family here, they will not get any financial support from me. Fuck that. My wife says she is not going to hold her breath, on this happening. For once I agree with her. I don't think the guy is going to move. I hope and pray that it does not happen.
Jesus, why can't these kids live their own lives. I moved out and have been on my own since I was 19. Joined the Military and never looked back, granted I did move back to the folks town a couple times, but, always held my own. I was a single guy, nothing but the clothes on my back and no household to transport. This stupid fucker has 2 kids and 1 on the way plus a full household. Wants to move down here to be close to his mama. What a fucking pansy.
These people are typical scum. You know the type. They have 3 dogs, don't take care of them and their yard is covered with broken kids toys with a front porch full of garbage. That's what their house looked like last Christmas. Their house is always fucking dirty, toys, food, trash all over the place. Kitchen filled with dirty dishes, stained dirty furniture, carpets with dog piss stains and food stains. It's fucking disgusting. Honestly I do not know how this is going to pan out. I'm hoping the fucker don't want to deal with a cross country move and just says fuck it.
On a higher note, the lawn guy has been here 3 times so far. The yard looks great. I have not opened the pool this year yet, I will probably do that next week. I did have the lawn guy clean out and unplug my gutters. I did not want to risk walking around on my roof with my big ass. I was scared I might have fallen through, lol. So, we have lived here for 5 years and some change. Cleaned the gutters for the first time and it only came to 50 bucks! Sweet.
Did some rearranging in the basement. I think the layout I have now will be the one. Also, the lady has been watching Doomsday Preppers with me and has come to accept that way of life and wants to prepare. She has even stated that she wants me to teach her how to shoot and care for guns. Bonus!!!!! I do think hoarding away certain items in case certain things happen is a very prudent idea.
So. All an all, things are going pretty good. I just hope and pray to the Lord above the scum fuck from up North does not show up on my doorstep.
Thursday, January 5
White Coat Syndrome
Well, it turns out I have "white coat syndrome", apparently that's a fear of doctors......I knew that. I hate doctors.
Let me explain, I had to sign up for a new benefit package at work, new insurance, health coverage, shit like that. I opted for additional life insurance. I did not know this at the time, but I needed a physical for that.
Today a nurse came by the house to give me said physical. First thing she did was ask if my folks were still alive, how old they were, any major problems......shit like that for a medical history. She then broke out the blood pressure tester. She tested it, and asked if I had a history of high blood pressure, I said no, but in the past I have done this and the doctors have asked me if I was nervous, I said yes. She then explained to me what "white coat syndrome" is. Well, my blood pressure was high. The nurse said, we will wait for a little while. She took some blood, made me piss in a cup, height, weight, the normal crap. Took my blood pressure again and presto.......normal, well she said it was a little high, but well within norms. She then advised me that "white coat syndrome" has been verified and is real. It is the dread fear of doctors, dentists, etc......
I have it. Now, I do not fear doctors or dentists for fear of my life, it's not that bad, but, I don't like them. Don't like them enough for it to affect my blood pressure, LOL. I knew that. I will go to the doctor or dentist if I am in pain. That said. But, no pain, feeling regular, I'm gold. The lady on the other hand, she is at the fucking doctor 2-3 times a month sometimes. She thinks I should be that way........fuck that.
Well, the nurse did tell me that my smoking is taking a toll, and I should stop, my lung capacity is low for my age. I am cutting down. I have not gotten the blood results back yet, she said that would take about a week. I'm hopeful. I hope I don't have diabetes , I eat what I want and am overweight. I have read about the symptoms and have not had any, but, you never know. I'll wait and see.
She asked me how often I drink........I lied...........Of course. LOL!
Let me explain, I had to sign up for a new benefit package at work, new insurance, health coverage, shit like that. I opted for additional life insurance. I did not know this at the time, but I needed a physical for that.
Today a nurse came by the house to give me said physical. First thing she did was ask if my folks were still alive, how old they were, any major problems......shit like that for a medical history. She then broke out the blood pressure tester. She tested it, and asked if I had a history of high blood pressure, I said no, but in the past I have done this and the doctors have asked me if I was nervous, I said yes. She then explained to me what "white coat syndrome" is. Well, my blood pressure was high. The nurse said, we will wait for a little while. She took some blood, made me piss in a cup, height, weight, the normal crap. Took my blood pressure again and presto.......normal, well she said it was a little high, but well within norms. She then advised me that "white coat syndrome" has been verified and is real. It is the dread fear of doctors, dentists, etc......
I have it. Now, I do not fear doctors or dentists for fear of my life, it's not that bad, but, I don't like them. Don't like them enough for it to affect my blood pressure, LOL. I knew that. I will go to the doctor or dentist if I am in pain. That said. But, no pain, feeling regular, I'm gold. The lady on the other hand, she is at the fucking doctor 2-3 times a month sometimes. She thinks I should be that way........fuck that.
Well, the nurse did tell me that my smoking is taking a toll, and I should stop, my lung capacity is low for my age. I am cutting down. I have not gotten the blood results back yet, she said that would take about a week. I'm hopeful. I hope I don't have diabetes , I eat what I want and am overweight. I have read about the symptoms and have not had any, but, you never know. I'll wait and see.
She asked me how often I drink........I lied...........Of course. LOL!
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